If anybody is toxic and does nothing to nurture our relationship, it’s time to cut them off. My experience has taught me that I don’t owe anyone my sanity. What can you expect from such people? Nothing good, obviously. ![]() This was nowhere close to the truth since she was deep down an extremely negative person. I remember having a close friend who claimed she treated me as if I were her sister. To be honest, I haven’t had plenty of toxic persons in my circle so far, but it takes only one to start questioning yourself. (Hopefully, you have more deep and meaningful friendships that the negative person does.Dealing with negative people is energy-draining and affects both our mental health and self-esteem. ![]() (Hopefully, there won’t be any such instances and if there are a few, it may mean that the negative person is right-perhaps you are more trusting than you should be.) You could also calmly point out what research shows: it is important to trust people to form deep and meaningful relationships. And finally, if the negative person chastises you for trusting people too much, ask her calmly to recount instances in which you have been taken advantage of on account of your trusting nature. ![]() Over time, the negative person will recognize that, while your predilection for taking risks may be higher than his or her own, you are not reckless. Likewise, if the negative person warns you of the dire consequences of taking what you think is a healthy risk, tell him calmly, “we will see what happens.” Hopefully-if you are calibrated accurately-you will emerge unhurt, and with enhanced skills. For example, negative people have strong preferences on what and how their children should eat, what type of car their spouse should drive, and so on.įor instance, if the negative person warns you of the futility of pursuing your dreams, let him know that you feel differently about your chances, or tell her calmly that you would rather than take the chance and fail than not try at all.
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |